“Forgive them Father, for they know not what they do.”-Jesus
SLAM…I’m shook awake. A moment goes by…SLAM, I shudder and cover my ears. The light of the room hurts my eyes as I reluctantly open them. CRASH…I moan as “Damn it!” is screamed from the kitchen. SLAM… “Mama, will you Please try to be a little more quiet?!!” My body is vibrating and aching from the noise and being shocked into waking up during REM sleep. And it continues to go on………until I finally leave home 2 1/2 years after high school graduation.
No one in my family ever accommodated my requests. I was a teenage drama queen, who was so dramatic, and just so sensitive. They didn’t know “who I thought I was” and I didn’t have an answer for them. All I know is I didn’t want to be me.
I spent most of my mornings in an irritable state with my mind in a fog. I was tardy to school most of the time and was even suspended because of it. That and my vanity, since we’re being honest.
It has been my experience that most people don’t know how they truly affect others. If they did, people would be more kind and compassionate and truly honor one another. What I wish more people understood and knew how to do is what my world calls Holding Space for one another. I’ve been trying to teach this to my family for what feels like forever. Holding Space is allowing people to just be. To be exactly who they are, in that exact moment, in that exact circumstance without judgement. The other party does not have to understand, nor do they need to. All that is required is to listen. And listen with the ear of Spirit, or your Heart. People have spent so much time trying to understand me, trying to figure me out that they completely miss me and all the gifts people like me have to offer. It is a much easier road for all involved to deal with a peaceful, validated Sensitive than an irritable, frustrated one. Trust me.
But I do want to say that as the HSP, I have a role in all of this. I can’t just be the victim and live in a state of anger and frustration. I have to learn to forgive. Truly forgive because they are incapable of understanding. Highly Sensitive People (HSP) make up about a fifth of the population. That means that 4/5ths of the population have no way of relating to or understanding the other. “They know not…”.
I just hope that through educational efforts, people become more aware of sensitive people, the role they play in our lives and our planet. I hope that more HSP learn how to turn their burden into a gift and that being more open and honest about personal struggles brings about an awareness that empowers the individual and the person they are trying to communicate with. If you would like to find out if you are an HSP or find out more about HSP in general, check out http://www.hsperson.com/.